Is Love a Scam?

There is no contestation that love specifically romantic love is one of the most controversial topics in our time. One may wonder why that is the case. The simple reason is that modern-day relationships have adulterated the pure and generic spirit that defines what love should be between partners. Modern-day relationships have become nothing short of what one will gain from his or her partner. To me, love should be something that is altruistic in nature. Love should be something that should embody all that is good and pure. It should epitomize the positive aspect of human nature. We are in an age where relationships face significant challenges as a result of the fact that people seek to benefit from their partners instead of loving them. Relationships have left many young people broken to the extent that they find it difficult to trust others and to love genuinely. However, that should not be the case. Love is something that is created to be enjoyed. Human love is supposed to epitomize the beauty of the infinite love of God. A religious figure in the Christian faith gives a very inclusive explanation of what love ought to be in our generation. Saint Paul posits in the holy book of the Christian faith that “Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth”- 1 Corinthians 13: 4 to 8. The debate about whether one must love with his/her heart alone or love with his/her heart and mind boils that to one simple truth. And the truth is that human nature has corrupted the true core or essence of what love ought to be which is trust. Love cannot exist in a place where there is no trust. Unfortunately, our generation is a generation that is perverted by lack of trust. However, I believe that there is still hope for us if only we begin to reexamine ourselves and begin to appreciate what love ought to be. First of all, love is patient. In all relationships, partners must learn to be patient with each. Patience is a critical virtue that is necessary for the growth of every relationship. Secondly, love is kind. A heart can only be kind if it learns how to love. The world is rough. However, regardless of the challenges the world throws at us, partners in relationships should make effort to be kind to each other. Thirdly, love is not jealous. Once you truly love someone, then you must extend some appreciable level of trust to your partner. That means that you ought to try and minimize mistrust which is the source of jealousy. Fourthly, love is not pompous. One cannot love someone and at the same time be pompous towards the person. True love should imbibe in you the spirit of humility. Finally, love is not inflated, rude, selfish, quick-tempered, unforgiving and untruthful. True love should represent humility, kindness, selflessness and all the beautiful infinite virtues that exist. It is absolutely reprehensible that mankind has allowed its own flawed nature to reshape the true nature of what love ought to be. It is possible to love with the heart alone without the mind. Perfect love does cast out fear. This contemporary generation needs to do serious introspection and reexamine itself. The Story of Hosea and Gomer gives an apt reflection of what unconditional love represents. According to the holy book, Gomer was a prostitute while Hosea was a prophet. God instructed Hosea to marry Gomer. While married, Gomer still went about prostituting with other men. However, God instructed Hosea to still accept her back regardless of her sins. This story metaphorically shows the perfect love of God towards his children. In addition, it also shows that as human beings, we must love each other beyond our flaws and weakness. Love should not be conditional. We must love unconditionally. As religious couples, there's no crime in basking in romantic love with your partner. Once the relationship is acceptable before the sight of God, it is profitable to love your partner fiercely and unabashedly. The book Song of Songs and Proverbs in the holy bible teaches us the true fundamentals of what romantic love ought to be. It is instructive for our own growth to make extensive reference to those books. May this generation's love be unconditional, perfect and eternal.

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