"You'll never believe the things that I've done." These words spoken out of the mouth of the soon to be high school freshman echoed in my ears. Sitting crossed-legged in a grassy field, I continued to listen attentively to the young lady in front of me. Her voice filled the calm mountain air with sadness and regret, her heart left unattended and broken. Over the course of one school year she was bullied, developed an eating disorder, overdosed on medication and alcohol, and was pressured to have sex perched awkwardly in the back of a car. All of this happening at the ripe age of 13. This girl is not a rarity, though. In our nation and across the globe, millions of young women struggle with similar hurts and pressures. As an educator and camp coordinator, I have a front row seat to view the broken shards of pain, despair, and desperation in the lives of teen girls. Every single one of them--regardless of height, weight, age, or race--feels the demanding expectations of society. And these expectations are impossible to meet. Girls are told that they must be sexual without being too promiscuous. They must dress in accordance with the latest fashions, but must maintain a humility that keeps them self-conscious enough to buy more products. Girls are treasured for being a certain weight--generally one that is unnatural and unhealthy for their bodies. Intelligence is a lovely quality to strive towards, but a young woman is made fun of for excelling in academics. Through all of this, it is no surprise that ladies are confused in their identities and purposes. As older women who still struggle with the same issues, the same demons of our past, it is difficult to imagine ways to encourage the younger generations. The question remains: how, then, do we bring forth change? The most effective way to brighten the lives of others is through love. Unfortunately, many of us struggle to love ourselves and, therefore, have no clue how to love others. Every morning as you look in the mirrors that endlessly surround you, what do you see? Perhaps you see the blemishes and immediately begin covering your flaws, hoping that makeup will help you feel better. Maybe you find it impossible to look directly at yourself, convinced that you are unworthy and unwanted. We must stop these thoughts in their tracks. Each woman has a unique, special beauty. We are intricately made from the moment of conception. Our hearts, personalities, faces, and minds are all so different. And that's beautiful. There is no such thing as defined beauty. Being beautiful starts with love, flourishes with confidence, and blossoms with kindness. When a young woman sees her mother, sister, mentor, or teacher living confidently, that young lady will naturally learn how to love herself. Rather than speaking negative words, saying how we wish we could change this or that about ourselves, we must begin to speak words of life. As women, we are intelligent, witty, gorgeous, and lovely. We have beautiful curves, humors, and stories. At one point or another, we have all experienced brokenness; we have all trudged through the dark, muddy marshes of pain. However, once the pain lessens, we find ourselves looking hopefully towards the future. Rather than looking back on our lives with regret, why not use those experiences to help others? Every trial you go through helps build a stronger, wiser you. With this wisdom, you can encourage the younger generations who are faced with similar dilemmas. When society tells us that we are valueless, we can combat those negative words with a joyful spirit. Insecurities will always arise; they are impossible to hide from. However, when we look at our differences in a new light, we can see that those are the elements of our lives that make us beautiful. By loving others, by helping them where they are, we inevitably become shining rays of sunshine. In order to encourage young women to believe in their beauty and worth, it is necessary to speak positively about their natural beauty, both on the inside and the outside. If our words can be the saving grace to a young lady fighting bitterness, resentment, self-harm, or shame, we must speak boldly. The words, "You'll never believe what I've done," will no longer stand as a negative phrase filled with regret. Rather, these words will be the beginning of a beautiful, unique list of accomplishes. "Look at the things I've overcome!" "See how strong I have become!" "These broken pieces of my life have comforted and brought hope to another girl!" Can you imagine a world where we stand, hand in hand and arm in arm, pushing each other towards greatness? As a mom, sister, friend, or stranger, you have the power to see positive change in the lives of ladies around you. May we all think optimistically, love courageously, and speak brilliantly. From this, we will naturally change the future for women.